Weeding out the flowerbed

Family, friends, colleagues,peers ......all at one time or the other put down bonds and shackles on us so much so that we find ourself bound and chained without any escape..while it may be a mental exercise it rules our physical universe so completely that we start acting in tandem with "acceptable image" without realizing it, never quite getting it right, never wondering if it even exists...
Even when they wear us down with their comments, demands, suggestions, orders and complaints, we never think of finding an exit route, too busy trying to maintain relationships, keeping up ties, creating harmony and doing all we can to prevent the boat from rocking.But while we are doing that we do not realize that choppy waters are of our own unrest.

Though it is important to have friends and family support , it is mandatory that we do not let ourselves be ruled by them.Its is better to respect yourself and stay aloof than to be a doormat for someone else to step on. Its worth the loss of relationships that burden us, if it also helps us lose self-pity, doubt and discontent.We all carry excess baggage in our lives, while it may be wise to travel light, its not always easy to do it. The emotional ties are strong and binding but before we turn into a muttering, gibbering wacko who wallows in misery cursing all those who turned him into one, yet unable to steer clear off them either out of choice or compulsion, it is better to sever them. You may have to live with them but not love them.
There are those who ruin lives without ever pulling the trigger or wielding the sword, they are adept at accomplishing all that with words alone.They may not take a life but they take the joy out of it. It may not kill you, but it will surely kill all the love and respect inside you. Being happy is not a natural state but an acquired condition and you need to weed out ur flowerbed, if u want to enjoy both the fragrance and the view.........

What's in a Name?

"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

Shakespeare immortalized these words decades ago, for years they hav ruled the lips of mankind but today i came across something which makes them sound frivolous, no im not undermining the greatest maestro of literature of all times,just believing that the idea is not as universal as i used to think. it is right in many circumstances not to be tied down or held back by your name, yet there are others where your name is your identity, your pride, your persona, your whole life and that's when it matters the most. What i came across was a movie ' my name is khan' a sweet yet tragic, a heroic yet innocent account which separates yet generalizes the misery and divide a name can bring and somehow also manages to unite and uplift what individuals connected by a name can do without emphasizing on it. the actions are not meant to add grandeur to the name but confirm that actions can be there, despite what the name is..
its not the story of a man trying to fight against the system, but of one trying to keep his word.its not about proving something to someone but about loving as only the truest can. its a story of humanity divided and yet again united by a name, here it was Khan - it might be any what does it matter so long it unites, you might say...but it matters to those who carry it, who live it, who have their lives turned upside down by it.
A rose may not be able to feel, to complain, to express if it is discriminated upon, it may only be able to spread its sweetness ( and believe me when i say you cannot convey the same joy the promise of roses brings by a promise of marigolds; and i'd complain to tht if i were a marigold) but humans can, and to them it does matter.....