Weeding out the flowerbed

Family, friends, colleagues,peers ......all at one time or the other put down bonds and shackles on us so much so that we find ourself bound and chained without any escape..while it may be a mental exercise it rules our physical universe so completely that we start acting in tandem with "acceptable image" without realizing it, never quite getting it right, never wondering if it even exists...
Even when they wear us down with their comments, demands, suggestions, orders and complaints, we never think of finding an exit route, too busy trying to maintain relationships, keeping up ties, creating harmony and doing all we can to prevent the boat from rocking.But while we are doing that we do not realize that choppy waters are of our own unrest.

Though it is important to have friends and family support , it is mandatory that we do not let ourselves be ruled by them.Its is better to respect yourself and stay aloof than to be a doormat for someone else to step on. Its worth the loss of relationships that burden us, if it also helps us lose self-pity, doubt and discontent.We all carry excess baggage in our lives, while it may be wise to travel light, its not always easy to do it. The emotional ties are strong and binding but before we turn into a muttering, gibbering wacko who wallows in misery cursing all those who turned him into one, yet unable to steer clear off them either out of choice or compulsion, it is better to sever them. You may have to live with them but not love them.
There are those who ruin lives without ever pulling the trigger or wielding the sword, they are adept at accomplishing all that with words alone.They may not take a life but they take the joy out of it. It may not kill you, but it will surely kill all the love and respect inside you. Being happy is not a natural state but an acquired condition and you need to weed out ur flowerbed, if u want to enjoy both the fragrance and the view.........